17 December 2012 | 19:38
While observing my son, Devan (5 yrs), who was eagerly watching Mr. Bean cartoon in youtube channel. I couldn’t help it but to compare the recent situation to the situation decades ago, when I was at his age.
When I was 5 years old, in 1984, I grew up with limited, but not deprived, conditions. TVRI was the only TV station. Little did I realize this condition trained me to be patient and to wait. To wait my favorite show schedule. Everything was at its pace, you could say there’s a schedule for everything, including my studying schedule every day from 19:00 until 21:00. These conditions built my personality, being a patient person, willing to wait, willing to go through a process, before I could get the result.
Let’s compare it to what my son experiences right now . Currently we are in a era where we can access on any kind of information on demand that suits our needs . As I was writing this article, my son was enjoying his favorite movie . He doesn’t have to experience the moments when you had to wait to access the movie you wanted to watch . Youtube offers it all , it’s just waiting for us to access them . This condition will unconsciously make him as a person wanting evertyhing right here and right now.
Is it his fault? No, not at all . One more thing I remember , when I wanted a toy , my dad always said “Sorry, son. I don’t have any money” . Now , instead of saying “Sorry, I don’t have any money ” , I prefer to say, “The money is there, Son, but I have to save it first “. This is to teach my son about the process before we can get anything we want . Or the statement , “Money is easy , if you know how to earn it! ” I think it will encourage our children to try to find a way to earn the money. Well , this is just my personal opinion .
I remember a poem by Khalil Gibran on Children :
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable. – Khalil Gibran
Our children will one day live in a era that may be totally different to the era in which we live now . As parents, we have to prepare them to face the challenges of life in the future .
Wijanarko Dwi Utomo
Alumnus of Psychology Faculty, Unpad 1997. Loves to write, and to learn from others’ articles.
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